Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Oh yeah, did I mention I was all by myself

I was alone,I was all by myself
No one was looking, I was thinking of you
Oh yeah, did I mention I was all by myself

I went to your house,but no one was there
I went in your room
I was all by myself
You and me had
Such wonderful times
When I'm all by myself,
All by myself
- g.d.

Found this article on cnn.com--always a fun place for ridiculous relationship articles, especially those from Oprah.com--about couples that have chosen to stay together but sleep in different rooms.

I have often joked with Tex that I would make him sleep out on the couch if he doesn't stop snoring/hogging the bed, but the idea of us sleeping under the same roof but in separate beds isn't all that appealing. It feels like we're at one or the other of our parents' houses and can't be caught together after lights out. The couples in the article however, insist it works wonders for their relationships, enabling them to get much needed sleep as well as space from the person they live with. I wonder though, whose idea was this initially? Was it hers or his? Does the absence at night make the heart grow fonder?

The sleep-apart couples still have sex like they normally did (whatever that means), but, as one woman puts it, it's like "your place or mine?" I dunno, that just seems weird to me, but if it works...who am I to judge, right?

Sometimes, maybe, yes you would like some space from the person you're living with. But for me, if I didn't want to wake up next to my significant other every day, I probably wouldn't have wanted to move in together. I'm also aware though that forever (in the case of married folks) can seem like an impenetrably long time, especially if you can't get to sleep thanks to your lover's nightly rendering of saw noises.

Ultimately, I think my inexperience in this matter leaves me undecided and prone to romantic notions of cohabitation... any thoughts out there?

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